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Jonathan | So what is time distortion? Why do we use it? What's it for? When will we have mastered its use and in what circumstances? How much fun can we have when we will already have begun to discover we've been using it all along? And how will last month feel to us after we've relived it in reverse? With new resources? Whew: The moral of the story: I don't CARE about the specifics of the language patterns as much as I care about how they work, and how they will have worked even more effectively! |
Sunev | HaHaHa! |
Jonathan | You can use verbal wizardry left & right. Now what impresses me -- and what will probably impress you the most -- is how using time distortion will chaaaange things... I'd like to invite your conscious mind to discover something about what it has in store for you. :) |
Nightspy | You scare me! |
Jonathan | I'd like to ask every single one of you to... and you, too, to take a moment to just completely stop time. And if you could... stop time... for let's say 3-5 minutes... and do anything you wanted to do... everyone would be immobile... cars would be stopped... (though YOU could get in one & drive somewhere) and you would have 3-5 minutes to do something - anything - Keep it to yourself... and imagine what it is you would do... |
CyberSage | Would I still be breathing? |
Jonathan | Sure you'd be breathing! |
Sunev | Could I go in the past or the future? |
Jonathan | No moving forward or backward in time. Just stop everyone else, giving you some kind of "edge" or space in which to do more. |
Sunev | OK. |
Nightspy | I would like to skip a few months rather than stop time! |
Jonathan | We'll get to that. OK... so you've stopped time for 3-5 minutes, then you re-start time and let things continue on! Now time's moving again and maybe there were consequences and maybe there were none. |
Liketrane | Damn, I was almost done! |
Sunev | LOL! |
Jonathan | If you think you could have finished in the 3-5 minutes, then imagine you DID! :) OK! Next exercise... Imagine you were somehow able to stop time for a full day! A whole 24-hour period.... |
FuturPast | There you go! |
ScottG | Whoa! |
ConneXion | Woohoo! |
Jonathan | What could you do or accomplish or see, how much could/would/might you do & think... Where would you go... |
Ommadawn | Much more usable than 3-5 minutes. |
ScottG | Off to the bank, hehehe, make a little transaction... |
Jonathan | (don't tell anyone yet) shhhh! :) A whole 24-hour period. Now think carefully, no traffic cops, normal travel time is irrelevant... Let's say you were also a pilot. And there was no waiting time for a runway. Would you go further? Think about it. Imagine what you'd do. What would you pack into a day? After you've thought about it and made it real... found out what you could accomplish in a whole day of stopped time... come on back to now and re-start time. I want you to think about what consequences and what benefits will have unfolded for you within that day. i.e., how much of the benefit to you or others occurred within that 24 hours... and how much will unfold after you re-start time? |
ScottG | Man, that would be one long day! |
ConneXion | But if time stopped for a day, then how do you know it was only a day? |
Jonathan | Oy! Connex, use your imagination! :) |
ConneXion | LOL! OK. |
What if you had 3-5 Extra Minutes or a whole Extra Day? | |
Jonathan | Here's what I want you to consider:
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Nightspy | I think the ratio would be 100:1 |
CyberSage | Aren't they really the same? |
Jonathan | You may think so, and thats fine. I don't happen to think so, and that's fine too. Let's review. Those that wish to share, are invited to do so... quick answers folks, if you know them. (1) How much of the 3-5 minutes was about IMMEDIATE GRATIFICATION? (Me: 80%) |
Znmeb | All of it |
Liketrane | All (ashamed) |
Jonathan | Ashamed? Screw the judgement calls, we're human, we can laugh about "choices" we'd like to have made differently, and learn from that! Or, be happier with our choices. |
Nightspy | 99%! The other 1% is derived from social conditioning. |
Sunev | Curiosity! All. |
ConneXion | All |
Ommadawn | Pretty much all... |
ConneXion | Mine was mostly about an edge for the future. |
_Richard_ | Most |
FuturPast | Edge for the future |
ScottG | Most |
NLPmind | I went for a shower, and I am still there. |
Sunev | LOL! |
Liketrane | Anything self gratifying is an edge for the future. |
Jonathan | Liketrane, good point; what I'm looking for is the difference between giving up something of greater immediate gratification knowing there's something in the future that's better. Hopefully that clarifies it! (2) How much of the 24-hours was about Immediate Gratification? (Me: 30% -- i.e., When it was 24 hours, I'd put in 70% time on longterm benefits and 30% of the time on right now right here :) |
Znmeb | 50% |
Sunev | Don't know... not much. |
Liketrane, ConneXion, Znmeb | 50% |
ScottG | 80% after the future for me |
Ommadawn | 30% |
Sunev, _Richard_ | 25% |
FuturPast | High |
Jonathan | (3) How much of the 3-5 minutes was about doing something nice for other people? (Me: Maybe 25%. In another scenario that competes with my primary choice, 0% :) |
Sunev, Znmeb, ScottG, _Richard_, Ommadawn, ConneXion, Liketrane | 0% |
Jonathan | (4) How much of the 24hours was about doing something nice for other people? (Me - This is tougher for me to answer. I'd say 20-40%.) |
ConneXion, Znmeb | 0% |
FuturPast | In one scenario, 100%, in another 0%. |
Liketrane | %40-%50 |
Sunev | 50% |
ScottG | Not sure; probably 0%. :) |
_Richard_ | 60-75% |
Jonathan | I believe that about Richard 200%! Richard is a very selfless guy. Alrighty... I think these are fascinating answers. |
_Richard_ | Thanks! |
Jonathan | (5) & (6) for each of you to think about on your own. Now -- before we discuss what this "means" about us: Think about the answers to these questions -- in relation to... Would you answer these questions the same or differently if time hadn't stopped? I wouldn't! |
_Richard_, Sunev | Same. |
ConneXion | Not I. |
ScottG | Different. |
Liketrane | Much differently. |
Sunev | I'd just be doing different things. |
Jonathan | For me that time is time out of time. But listen, ALL your answers are accurate. :) |
Znmeb | I don't know. |
Jonathan | Ed: If you don't know, then it ain't the same -- that's my rule of thumb. "Don't know" is an ambiguous response. :) So. Here we have an interesting view about metaprograms... and how we might behave during the normal frame of how time moves. In the 'normal context of moving through or in time... we divide up our attentions either based on some formula thats unconsciously driven, or in response to stimuli as it occurs. If you stop time... or somehow manipulate it... let's say to give you an UNprecedented opportunity to do things in a way that no one else gets... an opportunity to have done something that no one else can do or experience... what would you do with that opportunity? Some people will behave the same. Some people will behave fantastically differently. |
_Richard_ | I stay the same |
Sunev | I would go around and see what my family and friends were up to and what they needed and figure out what I could do to help. |
Jonathan | This is why time distortion can be powerful, but does not always work similarly with different people. Has anyone ever wondered why their results are inconsistent (across various people) with time distortion patterns??? |
What can these observations teach us? | |
Sunev | Jonathan, what do you mean? |
Jonathan | I mean, and I'm asking everyone here for quick answers: Why would they use time distortion? (1) To get someone to experience LOTS of things over time -- very quickly. (2) To get someone to review the past with different resources. |
Sunev | To go into the future to see how I solved it. |
ScottG | I'd use it to practice something (sport, whatever). |
_Richard_ | Ditto, Scott, But also in game situations. |
Jonathan | Oh, COOL, Scott! Man that's TWO chocolate bunnies for Scott tonight! |
Sunev | Yay! Scott!! |
Ommadawn | To get stuff done I never seem to have time for -- like reading. |
FuturPast | To make changes in myself. |
Sunev | Just thinking? |
ScottG | "Stuff I never have time for" -- Very literal :) makes sense! |
CyberSage | Dismantle the nuclear weapons of the world. |
Sunev | YES! |
FuturPast | Just nuclear, Cyber? |
CyberSage | I only have 24 hrs! :) |
Jonathan | CyberSage gets the King Chocolate ICBM - and that's a big phallic chunk of Cocoa! |
CyberSage | My cats will love it :) |
NLPmind | I use it to have time to replay analog output to detect patterns in real time. |
_Richard_ | Make sex last longer! |
Liketrane | To change the emotions that control the way I handle my time. |
Ommadawn | Creating time for practicing music would be pretty cool! |
Jonathan | OK STOP ;) LOL Alright - but those of you who've done NLP Practitioner Training also know that you can use it to heal past wounds, enrich your future, & lots of other wonderful things. Create generative results! However. Am I spending any time on the languaging here? I do that in trainings, yet always within a context. Am I talking about specific languaging, here? |
Sunev | No. |
Jonathan | Time Distortion, and what its used for, and why it works SOME of the time sometimes very powerfully and sometimes not powerfully --- is because in this... as in everything we learn in NLP.... it's about people. It's not about the patterns. Or the techniques. |
Sunev | :-) |
Jonathan | It's about treating each individual as an opportunity to find out what makes them tick... so that you can help them to enjoy tocking :) Or so that you can tick in time. |
_Richard_ | AMEN |
CyberSage | What if you just seem to tock to much? |
Sunev | LOL! |
Jonathan | The patterns & techniques are... a means to other means and nices. And you can learn those from just about anyone, and to some degree you can learn them from the chats here, and from other people including me. But to learn it in an overall context... where it fits in with how you're improving your own life & that of others... that's magic, and you have yourself to thank for integrating new skills into your own behavior. So, to recap, who felt they would behave VERY differently in real life vs in that 24-hour Stopped-Time fantasy? |
PureNLP | |
CyberSage, Ommadawn, Liketrane | Yes |
ScottG, Sunev, _Richard_ | No |
Sunev | And, it's thinking of others, too! |
PureNLP | I was just driving through the neighborhood and thought I'd drop into a deep deep deeper than ever before! I'd like to go into no time and rearrange all those balls in the PowerBall Lotto! |
Jonathan, ScottG | Hehheh! |
Jonathan | I was wondering who would set themselves up for a BIG WIN! Hi, John La Valle! OK folks: Note that John picked a MAJOR WIN for himself... that does NOT require any loss from someone else that otherwise wouldn't be lost. |
How Do We Think Differently When Time Changes? | |
Jonathan | What do you think the differences we found might "mean" in terms of how we think differently about our behavior -- when the experience of time changes? |
Liketrane | Time seems to be more of a conscious process for me. Subconsciously it doesn't exist, and when you stop time, then the unconscious shit comes out! |
PureNLP | Cool, unconscious Ex-Lax™! |
Jonathan | If I handed you a golden "stop time for 24-hours" card to be used anytime you want, somehow you start thinking of all kinds of things you'd NEVER DO? Or -- things you'd do but you don't make time for! |
IntriKate | Because it's not real, and the unconscious mind knows that. |
PureNLP | Ya can't make time, mate; that's the problem. |
Jonathan | Indeed. |
Ommadawn | Thats what I think I'd do... maybe catch up on sleep. (anyone know any good hypersleep tricks?) |
ProteusX | Jonathan, to be honest, I'm pretty sure I'd do just about the same things I want to do in a timed day. |
IntriKate | Yeah, when other people stop and commitments stop, and there's a clear page on the calendar, it's like a free vacation day. |
Jonathan | Proteus, that's what I'd call centered or grounded. |
ProteusX | To me, it's called overcommited! :) |
_Richard_ | Little difference, timed or not |
Liketrane | That's what most of us are going for: control of our time, so we don't need to stop it. |
Jonathan | Liketrane if you could take 5 minutes out of time to change one word in your sentence, which might it be? |
Liketrane | i would have to go back in time and change every TIME i made a gross blanket statement consisting of "we all," but the exceptions make the rule, for me. |
Jonathan | Curious. I hear a lot of people wanting to get more control. :) As John said, you can't "make time." Can you ever control it? |
PureNLP | I had the best no time experience with Richard. Pulled everyone into his "experience" then stopped time. Cool way to experience everything that time is not of importance until it is and then it's different. |
Jonathan | Well, Richard & John might be able to... *grin* |
Liketrane | We seem to try to control it in useless ways. |
Sunev | I don't want to. I want to flow with it. But I think I'm stuck in an eddy. |
Jonathan | Flow with it, around it, in it... outside of it... but IT keeps flowing |
PureNLP | Who's Eddy? |
Znmeb | It's "Ed"! |
Jonathan | The point is that time is one of those major nominalizations. So how can you control it? |
Sunev | Change how you think about it? |
Jonathan | "Time" is a Nominalization. When you denominalize it, it becomes another nominalization again. :) |
Liketrane | it depends how the individual nominalizes! |
Jonathan | Time... Timing... :) |
IntriKate | there's no time like the present! |
PureNLP | The present is inside your head!! |
ScottG | Time has no meaning, make a new meaning for it every time you want it changed. |
Liketrane | Intrikate, do you like apples? |
Jonathan | Time... Timing... I once interviewed a famous Polish comedian. I asked him 2 questions: (1) How long have you been doing this for a living? He said, "Oh, 20 years or so." (2) And what is responsible for... "Timing." |
Sunev | What? I don't get it. :-( |
Jonathan | He didn't either. |
Ommadawn | *giggle* |
IntriKate | Is that a loop? |
Sunev | I don't know, but it's a leap. |
ProteusX | I bet he was a smashing success in Poland. |
Ommadawn | There're three kinds of ppl.. those who can count and those who can't. |
ScottG | Loop before you leap! |
More examples: | |
Jonathan | What would happen if something will have uncovered itself inside the mind of one, a view, (sounds like "one of you") to within what it is that you wanted to know how to do better and will discover in the near future that you do understand its like people, not dislike people that makes it work (and playyyyyyy). The language is just a tool... tooling around... tooling around inside the bushes :)))) inside the bushes & trees... the upside down trees... the trees that my words plant seeds for... and as they grow with each new word... words stick to the leaves of the trees... little trees are built and grow as you listen & read. And if I use an ambiguity in language really begins to propel your skills are excellent and trees keep CHANGING SHAPE. NOW.... What would you like to know about why when you DIAGRAM language unconsciously, you structure the grammar internally similarly to trees. And as you do so meaning is applied within contexts and frames, and time is experienced. |
ConneXion | Oh yeah, I see the trees now! LOL! |
Tref | I'll get a rake ready for a time in the future when the leaves and words fall from the trees.. |
Jonathan | So. A simple change in verb-relax is enough to change the shape of the tree which causes shifts in understanding and behavior, is it not? Well I say "relax" because I dislike "tense." I can do that, can I not? I can say verb-relax and you know what to do. |
Sunev | Yes! of course! Past tense. Future perfect! |
CyberSage | Oh, just... soften... :) |
Tref | That you can do, that you can! |
Jonathan | That's right, I can, and did you have anything else you'd like to ask & explore with time-distorted itself with no help from me. |
Sunev | LOL! And, by God. There will be dancing! |
CyberSage | Yeah, How do you know when you are experiencing time distortion when you are asleep? |
Jonathan | Maybe when you came here earlier tonight you thought you'd be discussing how to use this verb-relax or that verb-relax or how to have already used a certain technique and then look back at the chat transcript and see it all unfolding... again... |
Tref | I am thinking of a time in the past, when I would have had a question, yet in that future, which is now, I have no question. |
Sunev | I feel lost in space. |
Jonathan | Or perhaps you didn't know what to have expected but I'm curious... rather than focusing on the techniques, could it be that you've learned something important that perhaps you didn't know earlier... about how YOU experience time differently? I mean, of course... when I give you a free golden 24-hour "stop-time" card... to be used whenever you want. And by the way, its permanently renewable. |
Tref | Now, I wish that I had been hear earlier, to have listened more carefully to the subject, and having absorbed it thoroughly, asked probing questions now. |
Jonathan | Just write about it somewhere. You don't have to say it came from me, or anyone else, after all, it's your life and you can live big or you can live small. Find checks & balances. |
Tref | Balance pays great interest. |
Sunev | I'm looking for my checkbook now! |
Gunny | Man I think my time was distorted two hours or something, geez. |
Jonathan | Grin! That was for the paranoid amongst you. :) Gotta give the ones who think 'I'm always manipulating' something to validate their fears. Sheesh. Everyone gets something. OK... |
Sunev | Whatever they're looking for! |
Tref | ...they find. LOL! |
Jonathan | Now before I finish tonight I want to ask you: Do you think you experienced time differently tonight (more so than during other chats)? If so -- do you think it moved slower or faster? |
Sunev | Yes. it moved faster for me. Much faster. |
Znmeb, CyberSage | Slower |
Proteusx, Ommadawn | No change |
Liketrane | Faster and then after the sun went down, slower (east coast) |
_Richard_, Bridge, ScottG | Faster |
_Richard_ | But then I've been doing fast time all day |
Jonathan | On to the future... :) |
NLPmind | Yeah. Had time to eat and shower and to read chat! |
Wrapping Up: What's the Point? | |
Jonathan | OK, so -- the same patterns... roughly the same sequence of comments are experienced DIFFERENTLY by different people. Which... brings... us... back... to... what? |
Sunev | Doh! a dear, a female dear... |
Znmeb | Ray, makes pizza in New York |
Jonathan | Chuckle! Which brings us back to what conclusion can you, will you, enjoy drawing? That it's the art of understanding each person differently that makes time distortion work towards an outcome. |
Liketrane | I guess that time doesn't change, we do. |
Jonathan | Liketrane gets the big-Kahuna Chocolate Bunny wth Sunglasses & a Surfboard! |
ConneXion | Question: do we REALLY feel as if time is going faster, or does it just seem that way when we look back on it? |
_Richard_ | I guess time doesn't exist, do we? |
Jonathan | _Richard_ gets another big-Kahuna Chocolate Bunny wth Sunglasses & a Surfboard! |
Tref | Time is an abstract, to be manipulated at our will; you already know how. |
Jonathan | Tref gets yet another big-Kahuna Chocolate Bunny wth Sunglasses & a Surfboard! |
Tref | COOL! Chocolate was on my diet I finished tomorrow! |
Liketrane | When you adjust what you experience, you're experience doesn't need time. |
Jonathan | Liketrane gets One More big-Kahuna Chocolate Bunny wth Sunglasses & a Surfboard! |
ScottG | It's only our *perception* of time which limits us |
Jonathan | I give ScottG his very own big Kahuna Chocolate Bunny wth Sunglasses & a Surfboard |
Jonathan | I fling big Kahuna Chocolate Bunnies out into the cyberaudience and watches to see if any of em start rutting |
Jonathan | I'll thank you all for coming -- I enjoyed this one! I'll see you at the next chat we do! Bye for now. |
IRC CHAT OVER! |
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